Archives For May 2015


 

Does what others think of you hinder your ability to think about more important things?

If you measured how much of your thought-life is caught up in what others think of you, you’d come up with a percentage. There’s always a level of effort we put into climbing on the stage of life and performing to gain the approval of others. Sometimes it’s a small amount, other times it consumes us and causes unnecessary relational strain. It’s human nature to want to be valued. But when other’s approval becomes a source of anxiety, insecurity and self-focus; taking away precious mental energy, it’s time to re-think the value of that attention. So rather than refine our performances in life and polish the plastic, our time would be better spent refining the process of being fully ourselves, whatever that looks like. Take the risk, and just be. Climb off the mental jungle gym of circumstantial acting, and exercise the courage to just let “you” flow through. Although you may hit some “you” snags, which you will, you’ll be refining and polishing truth, not a lie, performance or façade. You’ll feel like you’ve lost a ton of emotional baggage, your relationships will be more rewarding and you’ll discover a level of peace you may have thought was gone forever. I once pictured myself lying in my grave, asking: “Was all the fear and distraction I experienced being wrapped in other’s perception of me worth it, and did it add value to my life?” Did all the facades I presented impress anyone or add value to anything? The answer was no and I realized hindsight can be 20/20, even if imagined.

Forget about what people think of you. Be fully yourself today, and see how people respond.

How much time do I spend making an impression vs. making a difference?
Will I take a week or so to test what it would be like to be completely me?


 

If you try to reach success too fast, you’ll often get busted for exceeding the greed limit.

Inside of all of us is a doctor waiting to care for ourselves.

When you walk into a room, you either add something to it or take something from it.

When I do things I fear, it doesn’t scare me to death… it scares me to life.

The space between the words we speak, those slightly awkward silent moments create the space for miracles to happen.

 

One Liners by Dean Del Sesto. Copyright 2015

One Liners by Dean Del Sesto

TV = Taking Vision

May 19, 2015

 

Is watching less TV a “remote” possibility?

75 years ago a little black box entered the home. Families surrounded it for a few seasons and before long when families could afford another one, two, or five, families split into their own rooms and thus, a very clandestine division of the family began. Not to mention that goals and activities got shelved for The Honeymooners or some other chewing gum for the brain. Tragic! If ever a device robbed more life, vision, and potential from people and families, it would be the television, (aka – take-a-vision.) Lost in news, sitcoms and reality shows are hobbies, goals and relational growth; things or people we’ve wanted to invest in, but “The Voice” is on in ten and they’ll just have to wait. 2 hours and a thousand calories later, our life-vision is a bit more blurred while TV puts us further into a fog. With all the options to watch and the ability to buy a TV for the price of a pair of sneakers, its a pandemic issue, and TV is doing everything it can to keep you glued to the box. Its finances depend on it and “Big Television,” by nature of its increasingly carnal content, has no interest in your family or your goals in life. Its interest is in ratings, pure and simple. Are they evil? Of course not, they can’t take away our choice. But do consider that by the time a person hits age 65 they’ll have spent about eight years watching TV… or 1/8th of life. Do the math: new careers have been learned in a year, billion dollar businesses built in three years, books written in six months, relationships reinvigorated in one month, and the list grows on. TV is an addiction that will steal your potential. It will sideline you from the richness of life, love, relationships and passions as sure as the remote has become a sixth appendage.

Perhaps a little less TV and a little more life today.

Which of my passions and goals are sidelined because TV is center stage?
Are there TV programs can actually enrich my life and my goals?


 

A commitment without a vision is soon a broken commitment.

Anyone who looks upon another in judgment knows not who they really are. They invent themselves solely by comparison to others.

Traffic whereby you are not using the time to contemplate life, learn, or talk with others is known as bumper to bummer traffic.

The current trend of obesity is getting grave reviews.

Listening to what is being said is hearing. Listening to what is not being said, is wisdom.

A hero is simply one who lives life to their fullest potential.

 

One Liners by Dean Del Sesto. Copyright 2015

One Liners by Dean Del Sesto