Archives For July 2015


 

Ahhhh, the report cards. They never go away!

Everything is at a level. Any level-headed person, knows that, depending on their level. Water in a glass has a level, skill sets have a level, relationships are at a level, world peace is at a level, and of course our commitments are at a level. At any given moment, everything is at some level of fullness or emptiness, and it’s rare we check in to see what those levels are, because we’re just too busy doing life. But there is tremendous benefit in doing quick evaluations from time-to-time based on the premise that there are four levels of commitment. You are operating in one of them in all areas of your life right now. The first: 1. Playing to lose, the commitment to do nothing, to sit on the sidelines and watch life pass by where complacency is valued more than progress and comfort more than discipline. 2. Playing not to lose. This is doing just enough to get by, but not taking any risks and being so careful nothing really good or bad ever happens to you… a tentative existence. 3. Playing to play. Not a bad place to be, but are always in jeopardy to fall back on “play not to lose” as you never really get ahead in this zone of play. The fourth level is the only one that ensures progress. 4. Playing to win. This level embraces challenges, ignores feelings and obstacles and knows whatever price one has to pay to have something turn out is nothing compared to the price of complacency. This level gives the pain a purpose, and makes the discomfort of growth almost pleasurable. It ensures the success of our goals and ourselves at every level of our life.

What level of commitment will you play at today?

When was the last time I did a “level” check in the various areas of my life?
What level is lowest at this time, and what level must I play at to change that?


 

Knowledge isn’t power until it becomes action. When it becomes action, it becomes mistakes, when it becomes mistakes, it becomes learning, when it becomes learning, it becomes wisdom, when it becomes wisdom… then knowledge becomes power.

Integrity is giving the books, CDs and DVDs that you borrow back to their rightful owner, in this lifetime.

Wisdom is measuring your progress by what you see with your eyes, not what you think with your imagination.

Courage is running into the conflict, not away from it.

It’s one thing to lend a helping hand, but yet another to lend a helping heart.

My temptation to take typing lessons is surpassed by my commitment to brevity.

 

One Liners by Dean Del Sesto. Copyright 2015

One Liners by Dean Del Sesto


 

Sometimes the absence of words can be the key to more effective communication.

My wife told me recently that I would be more effective in my life if I showed a “little” more conversational restraint. I think what she was saying so diplomatically was the more I talked, the more I could come across as a know it all, and she was spot on. Although Kitt’s a big fan of mine, as I am of her, I took her words to heart as coaching, not reprimand. I realized that if I listened a little more, processed what was said with more care and attention and waited for the “more opportune moments” to speak, conversations would be less about my wanting to be acknowledged as a great communicator and more about creating trust, efficiency and effectiveness in relationships. It was life-changing for me, and I’m grateful she had the courage to share it. Not sure if you’ve ever read, it, but there is limitless wisdom to be found in the Bible, and there’s a verse in Proverbs that reads, “The more the words, the less the meaning, and no one profits from that.” What it’s saying is that we have a tendency to say too much. It implies that if we are communicating with wisdom, we won’t waste words, but say what needs to be said in a focused, concise and sensitive manner. With a new commitment to brevity, I now know the truth can be said with optimum strength in a single sentence, and doesn’t require exaggerations, exhaustive details or our need to sound-off to make the point. Fewer words, more dialogue, better understanding, and less drama are just a few of the benefits of staying out of the bloviating zone. This being said, I think I’ll say no more.

Offer poignant, less verbose statements today, and see how much more gets said…and done!!!

Do I take into account the value of time and productivity in my conversations?
Can I make my points more effectively with “laser-like” communication?


 

Hammer out the details on the front end in the interest of protecting everyone’s tail end.

Counseling is like using a torque wrench, use the right amount of pressure and things just click.

Integrity is stealing nothing but a base or a heart.

Insight is treating your enemies as the friends they might soon be.

Hearing is a function of the senses, listening is a commitment of the heart.

A real winner congratulates the losers such that they feel like winners.

 

One Liners by Dean Del Sesto. Copyright 2015

One Liners by Dean Del Sesto