We are called human “beings” for a reason
You’ve heard the old phrase, “Agonize over decisions.” Well every day brings a series of “What do I do’s” to life. Some days it’s small decisions, other days, big issues arise that demand more attention, and sometimes either the quantity or intensity of decisions can bring a bit of agony. Any way you look at it, the number of circumstances we are faced with day-to-day make it advisable to have a consistent strategy for making great decisions. But unless we are clear of our stand in life and in our character, making choices that align with our true-self will be elusive at best. Not being sure about “what to do” over and over again is nothing more than a symptom of being uncertain about “who we are going to be” in circumstances. And because we’re unsure of the “being” traits such as being kind, gentle, committed, giving, considerate, transparent, straightforward, rational, etc. the “what to do” options are not only vast, but confusing and filled with wavering. When our character is unstable, every decision made will be based on how we feel in that moment rather than our predetermined character. Deciding on your way-of- being in life is foundational to all actions, and it clarifies what you will do and how you will go about life with great predictability and confidence. For example, when I am counseling and the person asks, “What should I do?” I respond with, “Well, let’s start with who are you going to be in the circumstance you are in.” Then I just listen to them outline their character, heart and way of being. E.g. “I will be caring, giving, humble, and coachable.” When they’re done identifying who they will be, I calmly ask, “So what would a person like that do?” Nearly every time, they know exactly what they’ll do, it’s surprisingly lucid, birthed in conviction and almost always an action that will generate the best results.
Get clear on who you will be today for a better today and tomorrow.
Is what I do based on my feelings or based on my predetermined character?
Am I even clear about my own core values such that my decisions are clear?